How to find friends

Places to look

If you have a friend, look at her circle of friends. The same thing that attracted you to the friend you have may be found in those she likes as well.
Reconnect with people you used to be friends with.
Join a club focused on an interest. You’re guaranteed to meet people with at least one thing in common with you.
Volunteer. There is nothing that builds camaraderie like serving alongside someone.
Start with a pen pal. Try www.postcrossing.com.
Keep it in the family. Dr. Dan Peters recommends cousins. “Cousins have a great potential to be a bridge to developing relationships outside the family. They share the same gene pool, and they have some of the same built-in characteristics, the same environmental exposure.”

Ways to behave

Accept invitations, even if you’re not sure you’ll like the activity. Part of being a friend is not always having it your way.
Practice extending invitations ahead of time. It can be nerve-wracking to risk rejection, so practice how you will extend the invitation, as well as how you will respond to every possible reply.
Practice “small talk.” Practice talking about the mundane things that people talk about to make conversation as they are exploring if they want to get to know the person better.
Decide on a place to go or something to do ahead of time so you have a specific invitation to extend.
Get help. If children are struggling socially, parents can try to locate social skills groups that work on perspective.

Keeping friends

Understand reciprocity. If you do something you chose one time, let your friend choose the next time, and don’t pout the whole time, either.
Manage jealousy. Recognize that being your friend doesn’t mean the person has to abandon all other friends and interests.
Don’t push friends away. Evaluate behaviors you may have or words you may use that alienate others.
End on a high. Don’t wait until you’re sick of each other and fighting to end the time together.

Titles on friendship for kids

Titles on friendship for adults